How NOT to be a Terrible Friend

Ah, true friendship. One of the greatest blessings in life. I happen to have a great group of friends, the same girlies I went to high school with. We still text each other all the time and have girls’ nights as much as possible. We are all very busy, but still always manage to keep in touch. Our favorite thing to do is get sushi (sesame chicken for Shannon ❤️) and drink fruity flavored wine. So much fun.

There’s also my Ree Ree, who has been my bestest girly since the seventh grade, when we would both “forget” our gym clothes on purpose so we could sit on the bleachers and gab. She’s such a doll, my high school friends love her too. She’s frequently a part of our sushi excursions. Only she likes the spicy beef lomein.

True friendship is a wonderful thing. It’s so lovely and precious to have people to confide in, people to spend quality time with, people to make sure you have a cake on your birthday. You know where I’m going with this.

What a lot of people (not my girlies) can sometimes forget is that having friends comes with responsibilities. Like the responsibility to not be a terrible person, for example.

I’ve decided that it would be a good idea to write a blog post on how not to be a terrible friend. My girlies are golden, but I would be lying if I said that I haven’t encountered some people along the way who just didn’t make the cut.Bye, Felicias!

So I’ve compiled a list of three things, three big friendship no-nos. You’ll want to avoid doing these things, unless being a terrible friend is a conscious decision you’ve committed to (karma’s got your number, baby cakes).

Here we go…

1. If someone is truly your friend, you shouldn’t be talking about her when she isn’t present -Unless you’re talking about how cute she looked wearing her new Mac lipstick, or how much you love being friends with her, this is NOT okay. You should already know what I’m talking about. If you have a problem with something your girl has said or done, you should be going to her about it, and no one else. Going behind her back solves nothing. If she finds out that you did this (which she more than likely will), she’s going to be pissed. What’s more, she’s going to be deeply hurt. The rule is- If you don’t have anything nice to say-find a nice way to say it. And say it to her face.

The one exception (a.k.a, I’m guilty) -if your friend’s boyfriend is totally intolerable. We choose our friends but not their boyfriends. If your girl is bringing her super annoying boyfriend along on group outings, by all means, vent amongst your other friends about what a moronic dweeb he is. They probably feel the same way you do. You’ll need to do this together, to keep your sanity in tact. I totally get it. Been there done that.

Ladies- if your boyfriend is really freaking boring,tells corny jokes, complains about the food when you go out to eat with your group of friends-you have to know that your peeps are going to talk about him. Collectively. Only because we love you and don’t understand how someone as amazing as you has landed herself such a painfully stupid boyfriend.

You also have to know that we have a list of inside jokes that goof on all of the idiotic things he has said in front of us. Don’t worry, we will be more than happy to share said list with you when you guys break up and you can’t stand him anymore. “What was I thinking?” you’ll say, laughing out loud with us. “We have no idea, ” we will laugh along with you. “But we’re so glad he’s gone. Love you, let’s get Starbucks!”
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2. Admit your mistakes. Everyone makes them from time to time, even in the best of friendships. All you have to say is sorry. Real friends don’t make excuses or try to divert attention from themselves by bringing up mistakes that were made years ago by other friends. Be a good person, say you’re sorry, and move on. The end.

3. Stay in touch– It doesn’t mean you have to talk every day. My girlies and I text a lot, but we probably only hang out about once a month. My girl, Anastasia and I probably only see each other about three times a year-the point is, make the time as often as you can.

Friendship is a two way street. You must show effort to keep it strong . If you aren’t doing this, you don’t get to call yourself a friend. You can’t repeatedly ignore a person’s text messages and then think that it’s acceptable to stick a flier in their mailbox asking them to buy magazines from your child’s school. I don’t understand what goes through people’s heads at times , seriously…

So yeah, there you have it. Don’t be fake, own your screw-ups, and make the effort to stay in touch. Sounds easy enough right? I hope so.

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Three Favorite Lip Colors for Fall & Winter

So a little disclaimer here-I’m not a makeup artist or a makeup guru or an aspiring makeup anything. I’m just a girl, who likes to paint her face, who doesn’t wing her eyeliner on top because she doesn’t know how to. This blog post is totally all in fun.

I just really like make-up. So do my girlfriends. In fact, we do this really fun thing where we drink wine or coffee (depending on the time of day and/or what kind of day we’ve had ) and go through each other’s cosmetic bags going “ooooh, I didn’t know you had that! OMG, I need that new Urban Decay eyeshadow palette in my life!” But really. I was doing this over sushi and moscato with one of my girlies the other day. I have (most of) my make-up collection organized into little bags depending on whether it’s for my eyes, my lips, or my face. She picked up my overstuffed ziplock bag of lipsticks and goes “wow…look at all  these!  You have so many…I’m not surprised, though. Lipstick is your thing!”

You know what? It is my thing. There’s something about rocking a strong lip … I find that it really helps a girl (or a boy. I’m all for gender equality, especially if that means defending a person’s right to wear lipstick and feel fabulous 😉  to feel pulled together when they’ve overslept and don’t have more than  two minutes to get ready…A bold lip and a little mascara, and you’re good to go!

I wanted to do a post on lipsticks that are especially fun to rock in the fall and winter. Let me set the record straight and say that I will wear absolutely ANY lip color no matter what time of year it is. In fact, just today I wore Mac’s “Candy Yum Yum”, which I know a lot of people would say is a  color for the spring and summer.

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Kinda springy/summery, yes. But I like it too much to only wear it in the spring and summer. So sue me.

I’m calling this post “Three Favorite Lip Colors for FALL and WINTER” because I’m featuring colors that are TYPICALLY worn by a LOT of people in the fall/winter. I’m not insinuating that you have to wear colors like these in the fall/winter, or that you can’t wear these colors if it’s the summertime. If that’s what tickles your fancy, go for it. It’s a free country. Wear whatever you want, whenever you want to wear it. Got it? Get it? Good.

Anyhoo, on with the reason you clicked on this post. My favorites are as follows:

NYX soft matte lip cream in “Transylvania”

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Hehe. The name of this lipstick makes me lol.

As you can see, this is an extremely bold, vampy color. It’s a gorgeous purple, hint of red, almost black color. You can’t be shy if you’re going to rock this one. My man thinks it’s too dark on me but I wear it anyway. To say I’m obsessed would be an understatement

Mac lipstick in “Rebel”

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Ahh this is one of my all time favorites. On most, it’s  a dark winey purple color. On me, it’s sorta pinky.  I love it! This formula lasts pretty well throughout the day, through all of my coffee drinking and snacking. Sometimes it even stains my lips a little into the next day-nothing horrible enough to prevent it from being one of my most worn lip colors.

Clinique Long Last Soft Matte Lipstick in “Crimson”

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My best friend ,who is not a big lip color girl received this lipstick as part of a free gift and gave it to me.  I’m sure glad she did-I swear, I spend so much money on make-up, I feel like I’ve won the freaking Powerball when that type of thing happens! But yeah,  I really believe that you can never go wrong with a red lip. It’s timeless, super dramatic, very Marilyn Monroe… I usually pair it with a neutral eyeshadow color, preferably one with some shimmer. It’s perfect for Christmas-sorry, I’m a little late, I know. It’s also ideal for Valentine’s Day, which is coming up! If your valentine is anything like mine, he/she  will probably get mad at you for wearing this color,as it will definitely come off on him/her  when you guys kiss. Oh well…

So there you have it, my three favorite lip colors for fall and winter:

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(from left to right- Transylvania, Crimson, and Rebel).

While I still have your attention, there is just ONE more color that I would like to share with you…I know I said that there were only  three, but take a look at how amazing this one looks:

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Kat Von D’s Everlasting Liquid Lipstick in  “Vampira”

Whoa! Those sexy lips aren’t mine! They belong to my girly, Cristina,  who is rocking this dark smoky blood-red that I’ve been trying to avoid shelling out the twenty bucks for. I  instead bought Wet n Wild’s “Smoked Cherry”, which comes up on the interweb as a great dupe for Vampira. Smoked Cherry is pretty, but I feel it’s a bit too pinky to be a knock-off of this color. I need the real thing in my make-up bag. ASAP.

There you have it, my loves. Hope you enjoyed reading about some of my favorite lippies. What are some of your favorites? Please do share in the comments below. I would love to hear all about them.

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Nom Nom… Turkey Meatballs

Today was a low-key, relaxing Sunday. I watched television, did laundry, had coffee with my grandmother. Just as I predicted in my last post, I was in no mood to do a whole big fancy meal prep. Shocker.

I did, however, feel like cooking dinner. I baked up a huge batch of turkey meatballs.

I don’t like to brag, but my meatballs are always pretty on point.

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Want to make meatballs that look like mine? Read on, my friend.

I have to be honest- I don’t measure anything when I make these. You’re probably thinking great,  how are you ever going to teach me? They say  a picture is worth a thousand words. So, I took a ton of them to share with you. Together, we’ll go through the process of how I make meatballs, step by step.

How to make Meatballs by Yours Truly 🙂

  1. The first thing I do is preheat my oven to 375 degrees. I line two big baking sheets (I think mine are 10 x 14?) with tin foil. This means they will be less of a pain to clean up later on. Don’t forget to spray the foil with non-stick cooking spray, or else your meatballs will get stuck to it.

2. I then proceed to combine a bunch of dry ingredients in a large mixing  bowl. The ingredient I used the most of is paprika. I would definitely say that this particular ingredient is the foundation of this dish. Use this picture a a guide-you’ll want to use about four times as much as I have pictured here.

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The second most important ingredient is garlic powder. Look at what’s in my hand and times it by about three, four if you really like garlic (or maybe have some vampires you’re looking to kill). Throw it in the bowl with the paprika.

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Next, it’s time for the accent ingredients.  They are as follows:

garlic n’ herb
rosemary
thyme
oregano
cilantro

For each ingredient, you should use between 5-7 handfuls that look like this:

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(pictured here is garlic n’ herb).

Use a dash of salt, and a dash of black pepper. In my humble opinion, you can’t make anything without either of them. Well, you shouldn’t.

After you’ve added all of the ingredients listed above, mix them together, like so.

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Top the mixture with grated parmesean cheese. I use the kind that comes in a shaker. It takes forever to expire, which is great since I barely cook.

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Top the cheese with some panko bread crumbs.

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Add two jumbo sized eggs.

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Mix the dry ingredients and the eggs together.

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Looks pretty gnarly right? It’s temporary, I promise.

When you are finished doing this, you can go ahead and add 3 lbs of ground meat. I like to use turkey meat, because there’s less fat in it.

Massage the egg/seasoning mixture into the meat, like so:

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This part takes me about ten minutes, because the meat is so cold! I feel like I have to take breaks constantly. Because I’m a baby. Regardless of how much I dislike doing it, I know how important it is to make sure that all of the ingredients are  evenly distributed throughout the ground meat.

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Finally, it’s time to roll out them balls! Make them as big or small as you like. They don’t have to be perfectly round-as you can see, mine are far from it!

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Now it’s time to throw them in the oven. After about ten minutes, open the oven and use a spatula to take a peak at the bottom of the meatballs. You want to flip them over when they begin to develop a nice brown crust on the bottom. ( I had one tray on the middle shelf of my oven, and another on the bottom shelf . The bottom ones cooked a lot faster- I flipped them over after ten minutes. I flipped the middle ones after about fifteen minutes).

Your meatballs should take about twenty-five minutes to bake. When they seem like they are done, you’ll want to cut one or two of them open, to make sure that they are not still red and raw in the middle.  This is especially important if you’re using poultry. You don’t want to get sick!

You can serve your meatballs alone, with pasta and red sauce, or with some sautéed vegetables.  We had ours with sautéed spinach, and some BBQ sauce for dipping.

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HealthyISH eating

So I thought it would be cool to write a blog entry about easy, healthyish  meal options for extremely busy people. I’m in graduate school, work thirty to thirty five hours a week, and I’m in the process of completing an internship- I totally understand what it’s like  to come home exhausted and not want to cook anything for yourself. I also frequently  wake up late in morning, which means I don’t have time to throw breakfast together. To be honest, I often forget about breakfast all together-the only thing my brain says (more like screams) at seven am is COFFEE COFFEE COFFEE!

Being on my winter break from school has been causing me to have these really ambitious food prep fantasies. They consist of me spending my Sunday afternoons making scrambled egg cups to have for breakfast during the week-you know, the cute little things that Pinterest says you can make in a muffin tin. Said fantasies also consist of me preparing all of these healthy lunches, like tilapia and sweet potato (both of which I hate, by the way). My dream fridge is stocked with grilled chicken made by yours truly, which I imagine eating for dinner every night. That won’t get boring at all, I tell myself, dreamily. I’ll just put a lot of hot sauce on it. 

I know very well that all of this is highly unlikely-although Steve and I did buy this really cool kitchen grill that is supposed to cook meat while it’s still frozen. I forget what it’s called. I’ll find out-if it’s any good, I’ll be sure to blog about it. If it sucks, the good news is that we have 60 days to return it…I think. Wait, when did we even buy that thing? Uh oh…

The fact of the matter is that Sunday is my busiest day of the week. Sundays are for papers and discussion posts and current events and all that hella fun stuff that goes along with being a grad student. So I’ll probably just keep eating this stuff instead:

Breakfast:

Think Thin Protein bars

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I really only ever eat one thing for breakfast, at least during the week. I like to have these protein bars by Think Thin. Steve likes them, too. We buy the Brownie Crunch flavor. These bars have less than three hundred calories. They contain  twenty grams of protein and 0 grams of sugar, which is awesome. What’s even more awesome is that they don’t have that disgusting aftertaste that comes from a lot of other sugar free products.

We buy them at Target. You get five for 5.99, which is kind of pricey, but they’re well worth it.

Lunch/Dinner:

Amy’s Bowls

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These are awesome- I buy them every single time we go shopping. They are these little frozen meals that contain more wholesome, good for you ingredients, and less processed crap. They go for a little under four bucks at Wegman’s. My favorite is the broccoli cheddar bake, which despite being gluten free, contains these really delicious bread crumbs. The spiral pasta is made out of brown rice. I also like the Mexican casserole bowl. The single enchilada dish is really good, too-it comes with rice and beans…beware of the one that comes with two enchiladas-it’s actually TWO servings in one. The way they have it packaged makes it look like you’re supposed to eat the whole thing, which pisses me off because that’s what I end up doing every time I accidentally buy it. The other one I really like is the pesto tortellini, even though Steve says it makes my breath smell really bad. Too bad for you, Steve. Too bad for you.

Frozen Shrimp 

I eat these for dinner all the time. They’re a little on the expensive side, but a lot of grocery stories have a value pack. What I love  is that they’re super quick and require next to no planning. You can literally come home, throw them in a bowl of cold tap water, wait about ten minutes for them to defrost… rip their tails off (you don’t have to do this, I just like to), and heat them up in a frying pan with some olive oil and salt and whatever other spices you like. I like to let them get a nice little crust on them 🙂

Steamfresh rice in a bag by Birdseye

This isn’t the official name or anything-“rice in a bag.” The Birdseye brand makes all these really cool rice medleys. Steve was just eating the Southwestern style rice last night. It has corn, peppers,onions, and (you guessed it) southwest seasoning. As for me, I had the “Protein blends” flavor , which contains a bunch of whole grains, beans, corn, peppers, and southwest seasoning. I really like it, but it may not be for everyone. You have to really enjoy that super healthy, grainy taste in order to enjoy it. If not, there are plenty of other flavors to choose from.

Here it is! Pretty? No? Eat it with your eyes closed then.

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Steamfresh also makes plain rice, without any other ingredients. You can find their products by the frozen vegetables. I get them at Wegman’s, but they’re probably sold everywhere.

Tyson Chicken Nuggets

Lol, don’t judge me. Remember, this is called healthyISH food. These aren’t healthy at all, they’re just better than McDonald’s. They’re free of fillers and preservatives, and are supposed to be made from all natural ingredients. They can’t be that bad for you-my sweet Grandma who eats healthy things like sardines and whole wheat pasta and beets keeps them in her freezer. So there.

Fresh Organic Spinach

I don’t buy frozen spinach because I think it tastes gross. The fresh is the easiest thing in the world to make. If you’re already making something-say you’ve just finished heating the pre-cooked frozen shrimp in a pan-you just massage the spinach for a couple seconds with olive oil and a pinch of salt and throw it in there for about two minutes. Be sure to toss it around a bit with a cooking spoon. You can also do this in the oven; after removing your Tyson chicken nuggets, turn the temperature off, throw the oiled and salted spinach in the same pan you cooked the nuggets in, and put it back in there for two or three minutes. If you really want, you can even make your spinach in the microwave. I usually throw it in for about a minute, but every microwave is different.

Oh, and for the record-I’m not an organic food snob. It’s just that I eat a lot of spinach, and it’s typically one of those foods that get sprayed to death with pesticides. It costs a dollar or two more than the regular spinach, which isn’t horrible. You can buy the regular if you want to. I do that sometimes, when I go shopping late at night and there is no more organic left. It tastes the same.

For when I’m feeling snacky:

Mary’s Gone Crackers

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These crackers are super crunchy and fun to eat-plus they’re gluten free, contain little to no flour-and you get to eat thirteen of them for under two hundred calories. Not too shabby, right?

Happy healthyish eating!

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So you want to try online dating…

Hey all 🙂

For my first entry, I thought it would be cool to talk about online dating. The whole premise of this blog is to talk about things I have personally experienced-thus the name “basedonatruestory91”. I’m definitely very familiar with online dating. I used a website to meet people for about four months before I found my wonderful boyfriend of four years, who I currently live with.

Relax, this is not an eHarmony ad.

I promise I’m not being sponsored by any website to write this. I totally wish I were. In fact, if there’s an online dating company that would like to come to our apartment to take pictures and interview Steve and me while we feed each other cake and talk about how much we love each other and make consumers projectile vomit everywhere , please feel free to private message me so we can set something up. Pssh, if only.

This is my list of do’s and don’ts for anyone who is thinking about giving online dating  a try.  It’s essentially the same shit I tell my girlfriends, therefore it’s written with a female audience in mind. Any guys who might be reading might want to show it to his little sister, or another female that he cares about. Sit back, relax-potentially learn? Above all ,enjoy 🙂

Let’s begin on a positive note, shall we? The Do’s.

Do be Classy-So you’re in the process of deciding what pictures of yourself you should  upload to your profile. Or maybe you’re taking new pictures especially for your page, so that your potential love interest/ future husband/ eff buddy/next mistake/whatever has a good idea of what you currently look like. It probably goes without saying (I’m going to say it anyway) that you want to keep your look conservative. That means cover up! You don’t have to wear a burka or anything crazy-just wear outfits that fit properly. You definitely don’t want to be popping out of your clothes. It sends the wrong message.

Note- if you feel you the urge pop out a LITTLE bit to show off what you presume to be one of your best features-like say you have really great cleavage. It’s totally fine, in my humble opinion, to have a picture of yourself wearing a shirt that’s a TEENSY WEENSY bit low cut. The idea is for  your next whatever to be like, “Wow, it look’s like she might have some nice boobs” not “HOLY MOTHER OF GOD LOOK AT THOSE BIG OLE-“you get my drift.

Do Friend on Facebook– When I was meeting guys online, “Do you have Facebook?” was always one of my first questions. I wouldn’t advise making plans to meet anyone in person that you haven’t had the opportunity to investigate on there.  Facebook is great because it gives you a better idea of what the guy really looks like. You also get to see what his friends look like, if he’s friends with his Mom, etc.  I’m aware that Facebook isn’t foolproof. There are, of course, creepers that have no life that sit home and make fake dating profiles with matching fake Facebook (fake books? tee hee) accounts. Just be careful.

The best is when you add a guy on Facebook and you have mutual friends in common. I once added a guy who went to high school with my girl, Anastasia. I was considering meeting him, until I asked her what she thought of him. “He’s nice, but one time in class, I saw him pick his boogers and eat them.” Uhh, NEXT!

Do tell someone where you’re going– If you do decide to meet someone, you should definitely tell at least one person who is close to you where you are going-preferibly someone you live with. I kid you not- I used to take screenshots of the guys’ pics and text them to both of my parents, along with their real names, profile names, and phone numbers. I have girlfriends that send me the same information before they go out with someone new. In today’s day and age, you can never be too careful.

Now for the Don’ts. Dun dun dun!

Don’t forget to set a time limit-This is so important to remember for when you’re meeting up with a guy you met online for the very first time. I don’t care how cute he looks in his profile pic, or how much you enjoy texting with him until two in the morning. I cannot stress this enough-if you have not met before, you cannot be sure that you’re going to enjoy each other’s company. I used to make it a point to tell the guy beforehand that I only had one hour to chill. There were several occasions where I ended up hanging out for longer than that. There were also a few times where I ran for the hills  immediately after the agreed upon amount of time had passed. If you remember only one tip from this blog, let it be this one.

Don’t do dinner the first time around- Something super low key (and super cheap) is best for a first meet up. I personally used to like meeting up at coffee houses. Going off of the first don’t-it’s kind of hard to do dinner and set a time limit. The whole going to the bathroom and never coming back thing is just plain mean and only works in the movies. Ditto having one of your friends call you pretending to be frantic, claiming that they need you to leave your date and save them from some dire not real life or death situation. Not nice.

I once made the mistake of going out to dinner with a guy the first time we met up. He was a really nice person, but we just didn’t click. It was the most awkward waste of time ever-I don’t even feel bad saying that, as I’m completely sure he would agree. He would also say it was a waste of money. Poor dude was a total gentleman and paid for my dinner even though we clearly didn’t have it going on. At the time, I was going to school and working a minimum wage job. #toopoortoargue It was a really good meal too, we had PF Changs. I ordered the beef with broccoli. The whole time, I just kept thinking, “Ugh, we have nothing in common…Damn, this food is so good…but we really really have nothing in common…but this dish is really really friggin good!” I ate the entire thing. Thanks, Brah. I promise I’m not typically such a terrible person.

Last but certainly not least…drumroll please…

Don’t post old photos, or photos that you know damn well don’t look anything like the real you– just don’t. Maybe you’ve gained some weight since last year, or you recently got a crappy haircut. Maybe you just love the way that one Instagram filter looks on you. Unless you plan on hiding behind the computer forever, it isn’t worth it. For one thing, it’s misleading. Admit it, you’d be so turned off if someone did that to you. Nobody likes that. Come on now, you know it’s wrong.

More importantly, it sends the wrong message to numero uno-that is, you, my friend! Posting a picture that you know looks nothing like yourself is insulting. It says, “I don’t look good enough as I am”-, which is ridiculous, and so inaccurate.  Remember that everyone suffers from low self esteem at one time or another. My advice would be to have a friend take some new, up to date photos  for you. Or you can take them yourself-#selfienation. Do something to make yourself feel good-wear your favorite lipstick, or that pretty sweater everyone says brings out the color of your eyes. Whatever you do, don’t hide ❤ There’s nothing more attractive than confidence.

Now I feel all mushy and inspirational inside, like Oprah. 😀

If there are any do’s and don’ts that I forgot, please comment below! I would love to hear what others have to say.

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