Ah, true friendship. One of the greatest blessings in life. I happen to have a great group of friends, the same girlies I went to high school with. We still text each other all the time and have girls’ nights as much as possible. We are all very busy, but still always manage to keep in touch. Our favorite thing to do is get sushi (sesame chicken for Shannon ❤️) and drink fruity flavored wine. So much fun.
There’s also my Ree Ree, who has been my bestest girly since the seventh grade, when we would both “forget” our gym clothes on purpose so we could sit on the bleachers and gab. She’s such a doll, my high school friends love her too. She’s frequently a part of our sushi excursions. Only she likes the spicy beef lomein.
True friendship is a wonderful thing. It’s so lovely and precious to have people to confide in, people to spend quality time with, people to make sure you have a cake on your birthday. You know where I’m going with this.
What a lot of people (not my girlies) can sometimes forget is that having friends comes with responsibilities. Like the responsibility to not be a terrible person, for example.
I’ve decided that it would be a good idea to write a blog post on how not to be a terrible friend. My girlies are golden, but I would be lying if I said that I haven’t encountered some people along the way who just didn’t make the cut.Bye, Felicias!
So I’ve compiled a list of three things, three big friendship no-nos. You’ll want to avoid doing these things, unless being a terrible friend is a conscious decision you’ve committed to (karma’s got your number, baby cakes).
Here we go…
1. If someone is truly your friend, you shouldn’t be talking about her when she isn’t present -Unless you’re talking about how cute she looked wearing her new Mac lipstick, or how much you love being friends with her, this is NOT okay. You should already know what I’m talking about. If you have a problem with something your girl has said or done, you should be going to her about it, and no one else. Going behind her back solves nothing. If she finds out that you did this (which she more than likely will), she’s going to be pissed. What’s more, she’s going to be deeply hurt. The rule is- If you don’t have anything nice to say-find a nice way to say it. And say it to her face.
The one exception (a.k.a, I’m guilty) -if your friend’s boyfriend is totally intolerable. We choose our friends but not their boyfriends. If your girl is bringing her super annoying boyfriend along on group outings, by all means, vent amongst your other friends about what a moronic dweeb he is. They probably feel the same way you do. You’ll need to do this together, to keep your sanity in tact. I totally get it. Been there done that.
Ladies- if your boyfriend is really freaking boring,tells corny jokes, complains about the food when you go out to eat with your group of friends-you have to know that your peeps are going to talk about him. Collectively. Only because we love you and don’t understand how someone as amazing as you has landed herself such a painfully stupid boyfriend.
You also have to know that we have a list of inside jokes that goof on all of the idiotic things he has said in front of us. Don’t worry, we will be more than happy to share said list with you when you guys break up and you can’t stand him anymore. “What was I thinking?” you’ll say, laughing out loud with us. “We have no idea, ” we will laugh along with you. “But we’re so glad he’s gone. Love you, let’s get Starbucks!”
2. Admit your mistakes. Everyone makes them from time to time, even in the best of friendships. All you have to say is sorry. Real friends don’t make excuses or try to divert attention from themselves by bringing up mistakes that were made years ago by other friends. Be a good person, say you’re sorry, and move on. The end.
3. Stay in touch– It doesn’t mean you have to talk every day. My girlies and I text a lot, but we probably only hang out about once a month. My girl, Anastasia and I probably only see each other about three times a year-the point is, make the time as often as you can.
Friendship is a two way street. You must show effort to keep it strong . If you aren’t doing this, you don’t get to call yourself a friend. You can’t repeatedly ignore a person’s text messages and then think that it’s acceptable to stick a flier in their mailbox asking them to buy magazines from your child’s school. I don’t understand what goes through people’s heads at times , seriously…
So yeah, there you have it. Don’t be fake, own your screw-ups, and make the effort to stay in touch. Sounds easy enough right? I hope so.
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